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[san1tas]

narcissism/NPD recovery resources, because there’s like nothing good out there

Books and things to read:

• Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations by Dr. Elinor Greenburg - Aimed at providers but apparently super great for self-help too
  

• How Do You Develop Whole Object Relations as an Adult? by Dr. Elinor Greenburg - Tips on how to stop seeing yourself and other people as only either all-good or all-bad

• 10 Stages in the Treatment of Narcissistic Disorders by Dr. Elinor Greenburg - Goes through the stages of treating NPD
  

• Rethinking Narcissism by Dr. Craig Malkin - A book about promoting healthy narcissism instead of unhealthy narcissism
  

• Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders by Dr. Daniel Fox - what it says on the tin. May be best done guided by a therapist

• Shame in patients with narcissistic personality disorder PDF - What it says on the tin.

• Narcissus and the Daffodils - an essay about NPD by someone with NPD. Probably the best description I’ve ever seen
  

Things to watch and listen to:

• Recovery FOR the Narcissist by Dr. Eric Perry - A compassionate podcast to provide insight, support, and encouragement to anyone who exhibits narcissistic tendencies. Very in-depth
  
• Early Morning Barking - A YouTube channel by someone with BPD and NPD about coping with and educating people on BPD and NPD. He also has a Recovery from NPD by Dr. Todd Grande - A video about this provider’s experience with helping people recover from NPD
  

Misc:

• Narcissism Self Help Therapy website - A daily program for people with NPD (may have some triggering aspects in Part 2 of the program)

• NPD Safe carrd resources - More resources for NPD (I have not gone through all of these so I don’t know how good they are)

• NPD Recovery Comics by The Ego System - A bunch of fantastic comics about recovering from NPD.
  

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my dog is being put down tomorrow and I don’t know how to deal with it

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[were--ralph]

100k notes and i'll @ my crush on this post

[were--ralph]

wrong. You have until august 1, 2023.

[were--ralph]

you have one week remaining.

[were--ralph]

lets maybe calm down and think about the decisions we've made

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[aesthetic-gem]

q!maxo: “You know why there’s people helping me? because I have friends. You don’t. QUACKITY has friends. YOU don’t.”

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[writeblrsupport]

This is for the writers who feel like they don't write enough- because of jobs, because of exams and school, college, university and all that jazz. You are valid, what makes you a writer is that you love to create characters, plots and the like. It doesn't matter how much you manage to write. It's about the joy of creation and the comfort of knowing that this is all a part of you.

Your wips can and will wait if they have to. Don't stress yourselves out. Do what's important, take care of yourselves.

You are worthy.

You are valid

You are loved

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[supermariomamafucker]

i would be their third

[were--ralph]

i've had enough of this site

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[cubesandstuff]

Me, in the summer heat, taking 2 points of fire damage every second: aeugh aeugh aeugh ough eough ough eaugh

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[knifefightscene]

If you’re a poor person listen spending less on things that makes you happy/only spending money on essentials will not get you out of poverty but will make you want to kill yourself

[knifefightscene]

Everyone gets so mad when they see poor ppl spend money on anything other than food and rents and i gotta tell you being a “good” poor is a misery trip you’ll never please these people

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[thefugitivesaint]

Nikki Giovanni, ‘Allowables’, “Chasing Utopia”, 2013

Source

This poem was once making the rounds and I thought I’d share it again. 

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[sardonic-the-writer]

my dads response could not have been better

[sardonic-the-writer]

important addition

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[inneskeeper]

"If you smile too much you'll get laugh lines!!!!!" what a horrible curse, to be afraid of having happiness permanently placed onto your body

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[vague-humanoid]

ALT

[mxzenith]

Just in case anyone isn't aware, Sinéad O'Connor went on Saturday Night Live, sang about abuse, specifically child abuse, and tore up a picture of the pope live on US national TV. She was subsequently banned from SNL and faced death threats in the wake of this despite being 100% correct that the catholic church is complicit in child sexual abuse. This woman was dragged through the mud, raked over the coals, for calling out what was going on. She was booed on stage when she'd perform with other acts, to the point she had to be comforted on stage while in tears.

All she did was speak truth, and people tore her apart for it. Sinéad deserved so much better. She went from a darling with an angel's voice singing a heartfelt song to a pariah for daring to call out the evils of the catholic church. She deserved so, so much better, and I hope she's at peace in whichever afterlife she went to. May her bravery be a lesson to us all.

[whatbigotspost]

God...I was only 8 when that incident happened on SNL and so I didn't watch it live, but do I ever remember the backlash and news fall out and CONSTANT chatter from adults (most of whom around me were not even Catholic) about how what she did was so crass and disrespectful...it was parodies to death, mocked, scolded, scorned, and etc. It was very very common to act like everyone believed that she was right to be banned from so many things there after and it was like you could/would NEVER even see that terrible, awful radical's full performance clip again in syndication or whatever because it was 1992 and NBC heavily buried it as if it was like she performed an on stage murder.

For tearing up a picture.

A picture.

It seems absurd to me to think that there would be any level of reaction about an act like that today...BECAUSE SHE WAS RIGHT and also because every other artist who comes after her to do anything on live TV in a remotely similar way gets to stand on her shoulders. But also, I then think about the 21st century conservative reaction to Colin Kaepernick or the Barbie movie right now and I remember that maybe we really would still see the same shit now? Just from less people overall, perhaps.

Anyway, the real reason I wanted to tag on right now that because another post about her recent passing shared, SHE DID NOT REGRET THIS. She feels it didn't ruin HER career.

You Knew Sinead O'Connor Was Right, Even Then

“People say ‘oh, you fucked up your career,’ but they’re talking about the career they had in mind for me."

Esquire

The absolute fucking legend.

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[rockshitty]

Gandalf throwing his staff at gollum is what really makes this

[captain-snark]

Thank you for commenting because I was going to scroll past this. 

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[timaeuslover00]

Well that explains a lot.

[likorys-shimenawa]

If your Current Strike Support TM doesn’t extend to CGI people and set people and dress people, you don’t actually care for the shows and just like to complain about shit.

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